Kids are back at school and parents are debating, wondering or seeking extracurricular activities. Is it too early for my child to start? What’s the best one? How do I find a good program? We have compiled some information that will help you keep your children safe, entertained and healthy.
Why Extracurricular’s Matter
After-school activities benefit your child in ways that might surprise you. The Nellie Mae Education Foundation has conducted a study which demonstrates that children who participate in after-school programs are more engaged in and have a better attitude about learning, academically perform better, and benefit from a sense of accomplishment, capability, and self-esteem. Participation also lowers children’s risk of becoming depressed, using drugs and alcohol, and experiencing other behavioral problems.
After school activities let your child enjoy some exercise and make friends outside of school. If he or she displays a special talent, cultivate that ability through lessons or classes. Don’t make the mistake of assuming an early start in anything will lead to a career — remember that most children do not grow up to be professional musicians or athletes. Pushing your child into tons of tennis lessons or dance classes in order to get a “head start” will most likely lead them to resenting both you and the activity. Give him or her other options and encourage other interests, so he or she doesn’t feel an overwhelming pressure to succeed at just one thing.
Some Ideas to Start With
A good place to start is your child’s school. Ask teachers or the principal what options are available there. It’s also important to talk to other parents about what their children are involved in and get recommendations for kid-tested classes and activities.
Also check out community resources such as:
- Community and recreation centers
- Places of worship
- Museums libraries
- The YMCA
- Boys & Girls Club of America
- Police Athletic Leagues
- Sports leagues
How to Choose
Discuss with your child what he or she is interested in. Most kids will demonstrate signs that will give you a good idea of what they are good at and what they like. Give them some options that complement their interests — an artistic child might enjoy a ceramics class, while a boisterous one can work off energy dancing or playing a vigorous sport. But don’t overlook what might seem like unlikely matches. Shy children often enjoy expressing themselves on stage in a drama class; fidgeters can find a way to focus through martial arts. You can also target specific skills through different activities: music lessons enhance math aptitude, and team sports boost social skills. If your child will attend a daily after-school program, try to select one that offers a variety of activities, including ones that get him or her on their feet, as well as a quiet area to relax and do schoolwork.
Also consider your family’s schedule when planning activities. Make sure that these activities do not interfere with your family time. Consider travel time into the activity and allow time off your schedule to chauffeur. If not, consider activities that can be done at home, such as music lessons and crafts, or those that are held at school.
There is no one-size-fits-all answer, and it’s important to watch your child for signs of over-scheduling. In younger children, this most often takes the form of irritability, avoiding eye contact, and tantrums. In older children, look out for mood swings, recurrent sickness such as stomachaches, and complaints about the activities themselves. At any age, if schoolwork begins to suffer, it is time to cut back.
The kids are not the only ones who have a say or have concerns. Parents should consider safety, cost, and an overall good environment.
When making your decision, look for:
- At least 1 adult for every 12 children — in younger groups, the ratio should be closer to 1 to 10
- Whether there any “hidden” costs, such as for uniforms, costumes, or equipment
- Friendly, enthusiastic staff. Are they certified or otherwise expert in their field? Feel free to ask for references and check them.
- A space clean, safe, and spacious enough for the activity. Is there enough equipment and other resources for everyone?
- A calm, but energized environment. Does the activity appear well organized and supervised?
- Happy, enthusiastic kids
- Grade-by-Grade at a Glance
Use the following guidelines to steer your decisions, but remember that you know your child’s maturity and temperament best.
Kindergarten
Keep your kindergartner’s after-school life simple and free — one or two after-school activities a week are more than enough. Wait until he or she has adjusted to the daily school routine. Find an extra-curricular that involves their creative and/or physical side, such as an art, dance, or music program.
Grade 1
Balance your 1st grader’s schedule with play dates, playground visits, and one or two days of an after-school activity per week. Best bets are non-competitive sports and other physical activities since this is around the age when your child is starting to get a grip on the abilities of her own body. Plus, after being in school all day, kids need an outlet to play and run. Avoid sports with strict rules. At this age, kids need free reign to make mistakes and not worry about winning and losing.
Grade 2
Get your child involved in choosing extra-curriculars. Steer them towards activities they like and don’t get to do at school. For example, sports such as swimming, skating, computers, or music lessons. Many kids start learning piano or violin around this age. Make sure your child has at least one or two days free a week for alone time to unwind. If after-school activities are starting to interfere with schoolwork or if your child seems stressed, you need to drop an activity or two.
Grade 3
Your 3rd grader needs to move and shows the need to socialize after school. Team sports are a great choice! Other good choices are activities that use and develop fine motor skills, such as painting, sewing, or learning to play an instrument. Let them explore different interests but make sure to set aside still-needed family time among the team practices and play dates.
Grade 4
Try to get your 4th grader involved in one or two extra-curricular activities that he or she is good at and loves doing. It will build confidence and help them manage stress, which is key at this age when cliques and social pressure in school are beginning to build.
Homework is becoming a larger load, so make sure there is adequate time to complete work without having to stay up late. Set limits on seeing friends and activities if kids get irritable, grades drop, has trouble sleeping or complains of mysterious illnesses. Look for signs of stress like overeating.
Don’t put too much pressure to excel at what should be fun activities. Last, don’t forget family time is still essential. It may need to be scheduled in so your child understands that it’s important.
Grade 5
Over scheduling is a problem you and your child will probably face this year. Your 5th grader is full of energy for everything and wants to spend time participating in activities and hanging out with friends. To ensure schoolwork is getting done and not becoming burnt out, you should make sure they get two free afternoons a week. While you’re at it, block out a once-a-week family time that you and your child stick to so that family is a priority. They should be guiding their own activities, but now is a great time to suggest community services, like helping senior citizens or young children.
Middle School
Most important try to steer you adolescent away from TV and towards activities that reward their achievements. On average, adolescent spend an equal amount of time every week watching TV and socializing with friends — about 20-25 hours apiece.
Encourage your preteen to spend time volunteering, to join school clubs like band, chess, or foreign language clubs, or to sign up for extra-curriculars with a leadership element, such as the school newspaper or student council. It will help them feel more connected to the school community while forging friendships based in common interests and experiences. As always, keep an eye out for signs that they are over extending themselves with after-school commitments. As a general rule, preteens should be spending fewer than 20 hours a week participating in after school activities.